My Rotten Redheaded Older Brother
By: Patricia Polacco
Wow at the memories this story evoked! I am the youngest of 3, with an older brother and sister. Jeff is 12 years older and Kathy is 14 years older. Needless to say, my family was not ready or expecting a new baby in their lives when I came along. My sister married young, so she moved out when I was 4. My brother, however, lived at home forever so I can really relate to being tortured by an older brother. Growing up, he was such a thorn in my side and I remember longing for a sister my age to just hang out with. My sister and I were never close and so growing up for me was almost like being an only child.
My brother graduated high school the year I started kindergarten. (Bless my poor mother.) I recall many, many things he did to pick on me, but the most vivid involves a very old and loud Hoover upright vacuum. My mother had a Saturday ritual of cleaning and we each had our chores we had to do. Mine was dusting and cleaning the bathroom. My brother had to do the vacuuming. I was terrified of the vacuum. It was loud and scary to me and for some reason I was afraid if he ran over my feet it would suck my toes right off. (He probably had told me that at some point in time.) He knew my fear, and he would chase me through the house with the Hoover and make me scream. He was always able to do things I couldn’t do yet, of course, being so much older.
Everybody says I was so spoiled being the baby, but I don’t remember it that way. Being the baby was hard, because I got picked on so much. I was the youngest grandchild too, with all my cousins being much older than I. My closest one was a boy who was 4 years older. He also enjoyed harassing me so I got it in multiple doses. I could really sympathize with the little girl in the story because I know how it feels to just want to come out on top just once. Just once, I wanted not to be the baby and be the winner or the best at something. For me, that turned out to be school. I found out early on that school was something I could be good at and better at than most kids, so I pushed myself to be the kid at the top of the class. I always had to get the best grades and wanted my teachers to be proud of me. I was the first person in my entire extended family to go to a 4 year college and get a degree. If I survive this program, I’ll be the only person in my family to have a masters degree.
As we grew up and went through struggles that families go through, my brother and I began to develop a bond that I hadn’t really thought existed before. He’s never married or had children, so when my first daughter was born in 1997, that really brought us close. He was so smitten with her and I don’t think he could possibly love her more if she were his own child. She immediately became the love of his life as did Regan when she arrived in 2001.
My dad never really was there for us growing up like he should have been, and there have been many times in my life that my brother has had to fill the shoes for that spot in my life. He actually walked me down the aisle and gave me away when Darren and I got married. My parents were going through a long and bitter separation and it was a very turbulent time in all our lives. That meant so much to me for him to do that, and we have grown closer over the years since then. When our dad passed away earlier this month, it took me back to earlier days and memories of my childhood I hadn’t really thought about in ages. Going through the death of a parent has changed our relationship even more, and he and I have talked about things and said things to each other in the last month we have never talked about and said to each other before. Even through this traumatic and painful event in our lives, we’ve strengthened our bond somehow a little deeper.
As I read this book, it made me realize that even though it seemed at the time that we were from 2 different worlds, he would have given his life to save me if needed. There is such a special bond between us now and I wouldn’t trade our relationship for anything. I can even look back now on the memories of the Hoover and chuckle just a little bit.
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